Monday, August 3, 2009

Awkward Question ....

I want honesty and honesty alone.

No talking it up, no talking it down.

I want and need to know the answer to this question, may even graph the results if enough of you buggers answer me.

HOW MANY TIMES A WEEK (ON AVERAGE) DO YOU AND YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER HAVE SEX?

You hear the radio station polls, you see the Dolly and Cleo polls, but I want truth, from real people, in real relationships with real issues.

19 comments:

mapstew said...

No week is the same!
The past week has been non-stop!
But some weeks can be very non sex. That does not mean non-loving though! Some days are just 'hold me, massage me, touch me, hug me days', and that is enough at that time.
And then other times are, well, ahem, well, 'just let go, all hell breaks loose days'!
No week is the same, no day is the same, and I like to think, no encounter is the same!

xxx

Kitty said...

we go months without it.

it's been forever since it was weekly.

Chris H said...

Jesus Kitty! Dat is sad.
Us? About twice a week.
Unless I'm in a crabby mood... then not at all!
It's totally up to me. I like that.

Esz said...

For us it's every couple of days. More often on the weekend cos we're less tired. We've been together almost 3 years if that counts for anything :-D

Cinders said...

Depends on what's happening but at least weekly.

Epskee said...

Im almost too scared to answer this after the last sex-related question! And its a worry after reading the other answers... I'm not normal.

Inadequate Boyfriend and I "do it" daily, or more. Four years, and its no different from day 1. Theres ups and downs, but we're still at it all the time.

But I'm not normal. Not in this, or anything I think. Sorry. But at least I up the median!

Karen said...

Hmmm I am in the same boat as Kitty! It has not been weekly since we were trying to conceive Rachel (over 3 yrs ago now)! Definitely to embarrassed to put on here how often it does actually happen in our house!!!

kathrynoh said...

I have no SO so it's zippo!

JustJo said...

Some weeks it's every day, other weeks it is maybe once? I'll be totally honest here.... losing weight has made it more enjoyable and more frequent :)

Wanna_B_slimmer said...

Hmmm just thinking about this makes me smile... used to be daily.. but as we dont live together and the honeymoon period is over I am thinking on a slack week 2 times and maybe on a better week 3-4 times...but there have been times when its been two weeks with NONE!!! Varies greatly..

Anonymous said...

Weeks are all different but mostly every other day. Sometimes it can be 2 weeks and nothing happens! Sometimes it can be a couple of times a day. I am a sex maniac. I would like it more. I would like it now... hee hee. Kate
(kittie444)

Tracy said...

I'm the same as a few of the others, some weeks nuthin' much happening & others like rabbits, usually somewhere in between.

It depends on so muxh (moods, timing, kids schedules, sick kids, work, sport etc etc etc) - there is no NORMAL amount

AlleyCat said...

yes, sometimes we go weeks without. like kitty have even been months. probably never more than 2 or 3 times a week. I recon if you average it out maybe once a week/fortnight! it all depends on what is happening in our livers, how stressful work is & if we have anyone staying over - we have a small "home" & the bed is noisy!!! He used to want it more than me (I hated sex when I was overweight - just felt yuk), now it's the other way around, I'm often up for it but he's too tired (or has fallen asleep in the 2 minutes I was dwaddling in the bathroom)!!! He needs his sleep so don't want to wake him :0)

Cazzie!!! said...

Heya Jules, I love ya, and I am not amazed that you would ask a question so raw and for some people ..touchy (no punn intended here :) )
I have to say we have been together since I was 19 yrs old.. so that is 18 years.
Shagged like chipmunks for a long long time... in between kids it never tapered off either... so that's why we have four kids? Oh of course it is hehe.
Nowadays we average 3 makin' lurve sessions per week... and of course when we are on seperate night shifts this casn make it difficult..and "hard" (again, no punn intended).
My heart still races when he pulls up the drive way you know :)

EmmaK said...

once a week usually saturday but it is like three or four hours because we are backed up! video on for kids

Jenny said...

We've been together 19 years. It was hot and heavy for quite a few years and then decreased sharply after each child. Nowadays I try to make it happen once a week, but often it's many weeks in between. There's lots of love and affection in our marriage, just not lots of sex anymore, much to dh's dislike. My drive just isn't what it once was, a testament to early menopause! I think you can take from these replies that any number from rarely to muchly is 'normal'. I've always considered that the amount is not an issue unless one of you are not happy about it.

Middle Child said...

Before Don's accident it was pretty full on...he was always interested!
After his accident he was just as interested...we just had to change tack...
there's no rules at all...

HannahHandpainted said...

Hi--I'm a new reader. I would say that it's less frequently after having our daughter, but I think we appreciate it more. But we're also a lot more tired. And my daughter's sleep is crazy and sporadic, so by the time she's asleep I don't feel up to it and I hate sleepy sex but I do it anyway. Augh! :) And I would also like to lose weight. I think it would give me a lot more energy for everything.

By the way--I read on your old blog that you had an IUD and it fell out? Did you get a new one? I have been reading a site that lists all the side effects of a Copper IUD (yes, copper!) copper toxicity and the like. Contributing to weight gain, tiredness, headaches, acne, etc. I'm having mine out next week.

I wish you well with your weight loss and everything!

Miss Beck said...

Gawd I love your line of thought. LOL

Ours is still daily for the majority of time. If not every other day.

Sex is SO important to me, as is intimacy. Having a partner who felt otherwise would break me.