Sunday, March 1, 2009

Home Invasion

We have (HAD) some good friends of about four years, Let's call them Bevan and Myrtle for privacy reasons

Yesterday morning Bevan (Myrtle's husband) made a horrible and completely disgusting pass at me, pre meditated and in my home, with Sian asleep in the bedroom!!


He phoned me at about 8.35am and asked if Blair was home, I said no, he’s at work. Then he asked if I would be able to come around and look after their 5 yr old girl Casey as she was sick and he had to go to Woodend for something. I said I couldn’t as I had no car and Sian was asleep still but if he wanted to drop her here then that would be fine with me, she could just chill on the couch till he got back. He said “sweet”.

Then he turned up about 5mins later, walked in the sliding door, shut it behind him and I asked where Casey was. He said at home. I was a bit baffled as to why he would leave her at home and then said “I’ll wake Sian then if you need me to come around to yours and turned to walk away and he walked towards me and touched my breast, pulled into me and said “I thought you would like to try out my big cock”. I was stunned, I stepped a couple of steps back and said “what??, I don’t get it what are you doing?”, it took me a bit to register what was going on. I kept saying “are you serious, are you just tricking me, are you testing me, what’s going on?” He went and sat on the couch and said again that he thought I’d be into it. I kept saying that I wouldn’t be into it at all and what was he doing, I loved my husband and would never cheat on him and what was he thinking, and how could he do this to his Myrtle. By this time I had walked as far away in the room I could get from him and then he got off the couch and cornered me and still kept going on about it and he doesn’t see it as cheating, just a minor lapse in judgement and that I would enjoy it etc. I said I wouldn’t at all, then I told him I’d like him to go. He did.

Then he phoned me about ten minutes later, I didn’t expect it to be him and I was crying, he said all this shit about being sorry and if I ever needed him to sort me out he would and went on about does Blair look after my needs, this would stay between me and him wouldn’t it and I said I had to go and he said, don’t I’m wanking my cock listening to your voice.

I hung up. Then I phoned a friend and asked her to come around immediately.

She did and I went to her place for the day with Sian, phoned Blair and told him and then phoned Myrtle (who was working) and told her exactly what had happened.

She apparently went home and punched him in the head and he said he was sorry, he couldn’t remember most of it and he’d been pissed and he was a coward and going to end up just like his dad. He started crying etc and was going to leave blah, blah. She said don’t you dare walk out on me and the kids, you face up to what you have done etc. Blair is not taking it very well at all, he wanted to phone the police but I said I didn’t want him to because they wouldn’t do anything anyway and Bevan is growing pot around there with an ex white power mate and the last thing I want is the cops to find that and then have him and his mate after me for “narking”. Blair is worried about my safety and wants to go and confront Bevan about coming into his home, when he is supposed to be his friend, and hitting on his wife and being so disgusting and sexually inappropriate. The fact that he used Casey as a trick to get my guard down, she was actually at school all along. The fact that the phone had rung at 5.55am that morning and had hung up when Blair had answered. The fact that at Bevan and Myrtle’s birthday party last Saturday night Bevan had kept asking Blair what nights he was staying away this week with his job. The fact that when he phoned me back he told me he thought I was hot, always had and that he liked big girls. Blair wants to go and say something but also knows too well about Bevan’s violence, martial arts expertise and that fact that he obviously has no respect for anyone. All we have heard over our friendship is how he has attacked this gang member in front of the police station for doing something to him and how he attacked another guy for doing something etc etc. If Blair has a go at him he will just beat Blair to a pulp and that won't do me any good.

Now I am so jumpy and I am scared of being alone or even around Rangiora. Have been out twice alone since yesterday and I was so alert, jumpy, peering around. Last night I slept stuff all with an iron bar in my hand. I am really quite petrified but I don’t want to let on too much to Blair as he has to go away for work next week for a couple of nights and for quite a few weeks running after that and I don’t want him to be too concerned to go.

So I'm a bit on edge and feel like my home isn't a safe place now.

26 comments:

rand(om) bites said...

That is so out of control. I am so sorry you have to go through this crap. What an absolute bastard. Can you get some family or other good friends to stay with you when Blair is away so you feel safe?

Kitty said...

that is fucked. sorry that it happened to you jules, what a total cunt.

xxx

Marie said...

OMG Jules, I'm so sorry to hear this happened. {{{HUGS}}}

Cazzie!!! said...

Kitty stole my EXACT words. Bloody Hell, that is all you and your honey needed when you are both trying so hard. Huggs.

Sweet Cheeks said...

Jules...I'm so sorry this happened. What an ass! Keep your phone withing arms reach and have a password in place to let a friend know there is trouble. Something everyday...like peanut butter cups or whatever. Love to you sister.
~Kisses from SweetCheeks~

Lynda said...

It's all been said above. I don't have any advice. What a total prick and I'm sad this has happened. I'm so glad you told Blair though.

The Fat Girl said...

Oh fark Jules. What a barstard!! Sorry to hear that has happened, what are you going to do when blair goes away?

Paula said...

Just a lurker here ... but really feel for what you are going through at the moment - the guy is a real sicko. Some good advice above. Take care. - Paula

Karen said...

*hugs* Jules! What a bloody prick! I agree with all the advice that has already been given by your wonderful friends above! But the main thing I would suggest is having a friend or someone else in the house with you the nights that Blair is away!!! *hugs*

KittyMeow said...

The sick fuck!! He sounds like a monster. You really need to get someone to stay with you if you arent feeling safe.

Jayne said...

Ditto what Kitty has said. My gawd, the friggin audacity of the man. He's a bully & a coward & someone surely needs to bring him down to earth - either with a bump or a nice, solid baseball bat. Fuckwit.
{{{{big hugs Jules}}}

Anne said...

Reading this left me in shock. I'm also pleased you told Blair. But you shouldn't have to feel threated in your own property! What a freak and a sick one at that.

Maybe his wife will sort him out and he may not attempt it again?

Chris H said...

Sorry but I think you should call the cops, tell them what happened, that you feel threatened and that you are afraid to be alone in your home while Blair is away as this guy knows when you will be alone in the house.
YOu should not have to sleep with an iron bar in your bloody hand!

Janene said...

OMG Jules, that is just so horrible! I can understand why you wouldn't want to go to the police because of the drug associates, but as Chris says, you shouldn't have to sleep with an iron bar in your hand! Mind you, the cops probably wouldn't do much anyway! Good luck in sorting out what you're gonna do...

Anonymous said...

I really felt sick reading that and I am sitting here in shock so can only imagine how horrible it all is for you.

On the plus side, I think he will be too embarrassed to make any move now - the fact that his wife and your hubby know about the situation.

Kate (kittie444@hotmail.com)

I have had a similar situation and needless to say - we are no longer friends.

God I really sympathise with you. I think definitely get someone to stay with you while Blair's away and keep 111 on speed dial as they've said above.

Thinking of you and hoping all goes well. He's an asshole.

kathrynoh said...

WTF? That is insane. Hope you get it all sorted somehow. Hopefully he'll pull his head in now he realises you aren't going to play along.

Tracy said...

This guy is a predatory creep. He has been planning this by the sounds of things. I think you need to go & at least talk to the local police so they are aware of it - I suspect you may not be victim number 1. When Blair is away, have someone stay with you.

I am really glad you told Blair & "Myrtle", hopefully that was enough to make him realise y ou are not going to accept his behaviour.

Don't let your kids anywhere near this creep either, who knows what the sick bastard is capable of.

Cinders said...

What a prick Jules - sorry you had to go through that :(

Rachel said...

Go to the cops and just let them know you feel unsafe but don't want them to confront him....just so they are aware of the situation in case anything happens.

Is there another girlfriend you and the kids can stay with (or her with you) while Blair is away next week?

AlleyCat said...

Jules, so sorry to hear you are in this position. The others have said it all. Do have a friend come & stay; do have a password & people lined up to call just in case; do spend some time staying with someone else also while Blair is away. I too think you should either call the police or go & speak to them about what your options are. If you are not ready to make an official complaint, at least you will know what is involved if you decide to. Good luck & Good Karma to you.

m said...

What a prick! He planned the whole thing out. He knew what he was doing.

Dear God.

Please stay safe.

Spiky Zora Jones said...

that is fucked up....oh, so sorry sweetie.

He's a slimeball.

I'm sending you my best vibes and hugs too.

Head up...shoulders back and stand strong. Don't let him change you.

ciao sweetie...

Anonymous said...

This is a horrible situation - but good on you for not keeping it a secret. I would also go talk to the Police - even if you dont make a complaint - let them be aware of the situation and find out what your options are. This guy is a shit and has probably been able to bully his way out of trouble before - so why give him another 'free pass'???? If you arent feeling safe - then your children arent safe either. You need to do something!!!!

EmmaK said...

I am so sorry to hear about this Jules. What an absolute cunt. I guess, cut your ties with these 'friends' and try and move on and don't let it get to you too much.

Middle Child said...

Jules..get yourself two cans of capsicum (pepper) spray... I have. One for the front door and one beside my bed. It goes a long distance but make sure you don't block yourself in the room by using it. Oven spray doesn't go so far... There is a place over in Weat Aussie that sells it for use on animals only !!! Its not all that expensive and he won't come back again thats for sure.
If you are worried record dates and times and let Blair know everything, even if it is a wrong number. Take care...if you want the address of the spray I can email it to you.

HannahHandpainted said...

Wow...unbelievable! I am so sorry. I feel sorry for his wife, too, of course. But how could she marry him? I don't get that.

Hope you're feeling better now since it's been a while since this incident.

Hugs,
H